Let's think things through
Clients are often frustrated when their family does not support or respect their work in artistic professions. They often hear family members say "I can't support you forever!" or "when will you get a real job?" and other hurtful remarks.
Though changing your family's views is outside your control, there are a few things you can reflect on in order to ease the disappointment from opposition coming from your family.
1) What does your family's opinion mean to you? Here's a chance to explore your degree of differentiation (your independence) from your family. Are you comfortable with the idea of holding an attitude that clashes with the ones of those closest to you?
2) Do YOU respect your artistic profession? In order to feel secure against comments or remarks that seem to denigrate your choices, it's important that you work through your own perceptions and unconscious biases about your artistic profession's respectability. Doing so, will lessen the pain and frustration from what you hear.
3) Can you accept your family's values as part of who you are? Even if you're rejecting or acting in opposition to what you were raised to value professionally, your upbringing informs parts of your identity --some of which may even inform your artistic work. In other words, some people recognize that they wouldn't be the artist they are without the tension from a non-supportive environment.
4) What does your family not get or misunderstand? Is it possible that there are things about what you do that your family does not understand? Or perhaps the ways it makes you feel? This point relates to how well your family and you communicate. Maybe it's time to sit down and paint a picture of what your day-to-day looks like, and why it matters to you.
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